Since 1999 Mablean Ephriam has presided as judge on the syndicated Fox daytime TV show Divorce Court. When her husband committed adultery, which led to her own divorce, the mother of four mourned the breakup. But with the support of family and close friends, her legal acumen and her powerful faith in God, she rebounded with her spirit intact. She then took the steps necessary to protect her and her children's interests. Shaped by her own experience and 26 years of practicing family law, Judge Mablean offers advice on what to look for before you say "I do," and how to remain on solid ground if you end up saying "I can't do it anymore."

ESSENCE: What legal issues should a woman consider before getting married?

Mablean Ephriam: Look deep before you leap. Thoroughly explore your prospective partner's background. Don't just take what he's told you about himself for granted. If he's told you he's divorced, you need to make sure he is. Check the court records yourself.

ESSENCE: What are some of the keys to maintaining passion, love and friendship during a marriage?